The 5 Why’s exercise as applied to any idea of a New Yr resolution is helpful. Every year it comes down to the same few things. Why no flat white? Because $. Why $? Because I should save. Why save? Because there are things I want money for in the future. Why do I care if I have money in the future? It helps me feel secure today and helps me dream. Why dream? Duh. Or, we could Byron Katie that shit- “If I stop buying flat whites I’ll save money.”…”I’ll save money if I buy flat whites.”…”If I stop buying flat whites I’ll spend more money.”…”I should keep buying flat whites and save money.” I started my resolution with “less rushing.” I turned it into “more time padding.” I am starting to think about the amount of time each thing really takes- including the prep, on ramp, the thing, the off-ramp, the resettling. It’s always at least twice as long as I allow for in my planner. Now I am trying to wrap each event/to-do in my mind with layers of comforters to make it big, soft, and the fully-true-size it really is in time.
I love the 5 why's and should apply that to everything! It reminds me of children who ask Why on repeat until they are satisfied with the answer.
Yes, to wrapping all to do's in soft spaciousness so there can be breath an expansion in your movement. I think it's interesting that your "less rushing" also turned to an investment in more...more care, more comfort, more space. It reminds me of what I wrote about a few weeks ago around the budget--and realizing that "more" was missing versus "less". It would be interesting to track if when we first imagine we want less, we look for what is the more we want to reach for. A different somatic gesture for changemaking.
The 5 Why’s exercise as applied to any idea of a New Yr resolution is helpful. Every year it comes down to the same few things. Why no flat white? Because $. Why $? Because I should save. Why save? Because there are things I want money for in the future. Why do I care if I have money in the future? It helps me feel secure today and helps me dream. Why dream? Duh. Or, we could Byron Katie that shit- “If I stop buying flat whites I’ll save money.”…”I’ll save money if I buy flat whites.”…”If I stop buying flat whites I’ll spend more money.”…”I should keep buying flat whites and save money.” I started my resolution with “less rushing.” I turned it into “more time padding.” I am starting to think about the amount of time each thing really takes- including the prep, on ramp, the thing, the off-ramp, the resettling. It’s always at least twice as long as I allow for in my planner. Now I am trying to wrap each event/to-do in my mind with layers of comforters to make it big, soft, and the fully-true-size it really is in time.
I love the 5 why's and should apply that to everything! It reminds me of children who ask Why on repeat until they are satisfied with the answer.
Yes, to wrapping all to do's in soft spaciousness so there can be breath an expansion in your movement. I think it's interesting that your "less rushing" also turned to an investment in more...more care, more comfort, more space. It reminds me of what I wrote about a few weeks ago around the budget--and realizing that "more" was missing versus "less". It would be interesting to track if when we first imagine we want less, we look for what is the more we want to reach for. A different somatic gesture for changemaking.